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Furatena, Bereshit e Intersexualidad. La historia de Eliana Rubashkyn

Actualizado: 4 jun 2023

Les comparto a continuación una de las historias más conmovedoras y admirables que necesariamente los invitará a la reflexión y sensibilización por tantas personas en nuestro entorno que merecen nuestro apoyo y comprensión debido a su condición sexual y de género.

A Eliana la vine a conocer tras la muerte de otra magnífica persona y amiga, Laura Weinstein, adalid de la causa transgénero en Colombia y directora de Guimel, la organización LGBTI judía latinoamericana y a quien tuve el privilegio de presentar par veces en Limmud Bogotá. Dos mujeres judías, salidas de entre las entrañas de la periferia de nuestra pequeña comunidad, son ellas ejemplarizantes casos de superación y liderazgo. Con Eliana he podido conversar largamente algunas veces en las últimas semanas y me alegra que haya querido compartirnos su historia en términos muy íntimos, muy bíblicos y muy amerindios de manera sabia y noble.


Los invitó a ver la siguiente entrevista en exclusivo para Valija de Apocrifos que trasmito en diferido por la diferencia horaria que nos separa con Nueva Zelandia. Tembién encontrarán a continuación, para su lectura, un link a la Biografía de Eliana Rubashkyn según wikipedia y un artículo publicado en revista israelí.

Chunking Mansion. Una de las residencias en Hong Kong

Born as an intersex in Colombia, she survived rape and violence, then fell in love with an Israeli

Tomado de la Revista israelí "Laisha", entrevista realizada por Yael Gati

Eliana Rubashkin was born with female and male characteristics, grew up as a teenager, and after a journey of hardship became the only person legally assigned as male in the world to be recognized as a woman without undergoing any surgery. Today she is married to Itamar.

Four years ago, while living in a shelter for illegal immigrants in Hong Kong, Eliana Rubashkin, a Colombian Jew, surfed an international dating site. While corresponding with a Palestinian man who was courting her vigorously, she was approached by an Israeli guy named Itamar Golber, a member of a traditional Jewish family from south Tel Aviv. "I loved her look," Itamar recalled in a transatlantic conversation the two had with me from their current location in Auckland, New Zealand. "I went into her card, I saw that she was Jewish and that made me happy. I knew nothing about her past."

The two started chatting through the site (Itamar: "She was much nicer than all the other girls"), and in their first phone call, the very next day, Eliana told Itamar what deterred dozens of men before him: she was born as intersex, with her body containing sexual signs of both sexes; And grew up as a son named Sasha. "It was important for me to tell him about it right away, to know if it bothered him," she recalls.

And how did he get it?

"His reaction was different from that of other men, who feared that their masculinity would be harmed, because people would think they were gay. Itamar did not ask questions and did not go into great detail, like most people. He understood me so simply, and saw me as a beautiful woman worthy of love."

"I don't care how she was born," Itamar points out" and it doesn't make sense to me to disqualify her because of that. The main thing is what she is now." "This is where the good part of my life began," concludes Eliana, whose tangled life could easily have turned into a tear-jerking film.

Furatena, la deidad creadora muísca hermafrodita

I'm not a monster

Eliana Rubashkin was born in Colombia 30 years ago. Her mother, a Jewish mom from the Ukraine, immigrated to the country in 1979, when she was married and the mother of a child. A year later her husband informed her that he actually had another family, and he returned to her. A few years later she met a Colombian engineer, became unplanned pregnant, and at the age of 49 gave birth to Sasha. Her older age, according to Eliana, could explain why I was born intersex.

"Intersex" is a term used to define a wide range of situations in which a person is born with a sexual anatomy that does not fit the typical definitions of male or female. For example: girls born with a particularly large clitoris or without a vaginal opening; Or a child born with a particularly small penis or with a split scrotum, which resembles the lips of a female penis. Sometimes the difference is noticeable only chromosomally: some of the cells in a person's body will have chromosomes XX and some XY, a mix of both XY/XX, or an additional chromosome XXY.

According to World Health Organizations, a situation in which a person is born with sexual characteristics that make it difficult to classify him as male or female occurs from 0.05% of the cases, however, it is estimated that 1.7% of the world population has varying degrees of sex characteristics outside of the medical norm “male” “female”.

In the past, doctors who encountered an intersex condition in the birth of a baby would decide which sex was more prominent - and perform surgery accordingly. Nowadays in few countries is customary to wait until the new-born grows up and decides for himself whether he wants to be a man or a woman.

Most of the countries of the world still carry on with unconsented surgeries or hormonal therapies and babies, therapies that are a clear violation of the rights of the self-determination of those babies.

Eliana was born with chromosomes of both sexes. There was a rare combination in her body: one testicle that is male, and a second testicle that functions partially, and can produce eggs. Because the male markers on her body were more prominent at birth, the doctors decided to define her as male. When her father realized what it was all about, he left home.

When Sasha was 13, his mother took him to a pediatrician, who realized that the boy's body was not developing as expected; "My mother thought that if she had raised me so far as a son, I should be a son," Eliana recalls. "The word intersex was never uttered at home, and I did not know there were other people like me in the world."

Contenedor donde vivió en las afueras de Hong Kong

For financial reasons, the mother did not consult any specialist doctor. "She ignored everything I said on the subject and also comments from people on the street," Eliana recalls, "she just closed her eyes. I felt very uncomfortable with my body, and I started hiding it from everyone.

In order to help her son, she thought, the mother enrolled him in a boys' school only. "It was a nightmare. I was bullied terribly because of my feminine behaviour and because of my chest. Hiding the chest was a daily task: I would fasten it with bandages. As a boy with a tit, I could never go to the beach or the pool."

Throughout his childhood and adolescence, Sasha had no friends. "My body was like a prison for me, and the escape from it was studying." S/He jumped a grade and graduated high school at age 17, with one the highest grades in the country that year, which allowed her to be accepted to study chemistry and pharmacy at the best university in Colombia. At that time S/he grew long hair, and his older brother demanded that S/he cut it. "The farther I was from femininity, the more miserable I was," Eliana recalls.

The times as a student gave Eliana, for the first time in his life, some freedom. "I got to know people like me, who felt their gender identity was wrong, and I could present myself to them as a woman," says Eliana. "I connected to the world of transgender and cross-dressers. "That night I dreamed that my mother called me 'Eliana.' .

One night, as Sasha was walking down the street dressed as a woman, S/he was attacked by a man from a paramilitary wing group who had decided to clear the streets of transgender people, and was wounded. "The scars from this injury are still on my body," Eliana says. A friend who wanted to confirm her mood invited her to a transgender party at a private home. "In the middle of the party, I went out with friends," she says. "Suddenly a taxi came, and from the window came a man who shot us indiscriminately. I managed to escape, one friend was injured. I did not understand why I we were hated so much. That's what I am, and that's disgusting people."

Feeling that her life was in danger, Eliana decided to leave Colombia, obtained a scholarship to study for a master's degree at a university in Taiwan, and lived at a Chabad house in the capital, Taipei. I felt comfortable, ”she recalls,“ I felt my period as an alien was over. I decided that here I could feel a woman seven days a week. When I told my father about it on the phone, he replied: 'You no longer exist for me”.

Viviendo dentro del contenedor

Eliana's next step was to see a doctor, in order to take hormones to look more feminine. "Within three or four months, there was an amazing change," she recalls, "even the doctor did not believe it. My face changed dramatically, I looked in the mirror and did not recognize myself! I felt another person was hiding inside me. I could finally wear women's clothes without looking. "Strange on the street, and they approached me as a woman. I was happy."

But Eliana's hardships were not over. When the student visa was required to be renewed, she was informed that the computer at the Ministry of the Interior did not identify her as the person appearing in the passport. Her attempts to present a letter from the attending physician also did not help, and she was sent to renew her passport at the Hong Kong consulate.

At the country's airport, authorities suspected her of impersonating another person and possibly smuggling drugs, and she was taken to a detention room inside the airport. "For eight hours they held me in full nudity," she shudders, "and some police officers searched me intrusively, touched me repulsively and laughed. They did take my phone, but did not know I had another phone, hidden in a bag. I managed to connect to the internet and sent "Call for help. Friends from Hong Kong hired a lawyer for me and got me out of there with the help of Amnesty International. I applied to the UN and applied for political asylum, due to my special situation.

In order to prevent deportation to Colombia and in order to obtain refugee status, Eliana was forced to give up her Colombian citizenship. "I became a person without a state, under the protection of the United Nations," she says, "I lived in homeless shelters in Hong Kong. I was lonely, I felt I had lost everything that could be lost: citizenship, the pharmacy certificate, the master's degree - and my dignity. I was very depressed and tried to commit suicide. I was subsequently taken to a psychiatric hospital, had my hair cut and tied to a bed. It was a terrible torture. "

The nightmare, it turns out, was far from over. "When I was released from the hospital I went back to live in the shelter. One night I came back with groceries. Six Bangladeshi guys were waiting for me near the shelter, assaulted me and brutally raped me. I bled and arrived wounded at the hospital."

Eliana: "I have become a person without a state, under the protection of the United Nations. I lived in homeless shelters in Hong Kong. I was lonely, I felt I had lost everything that could be lost: citizenship, the pharmacy certificate, the master's degree - and my honor."